We women like to be ladies of information. We like to know everything that is happening in our town or church or neighborhood. That’s why magazine companies like, People and Star, make so much money. People like to know the latest scandal or fling.
How many times have we told someone a secret or news to show off our ‘information’? “Did you hear that she’s pregnant again?”, “did you know that she slept with him again?”, “did you know that she has been divorced 3 times?” Knowing information is not bad, but it can be bad if you share it without the person’s permission. When you are talking with friends, keep news about other people a secret. Don’t use your prayer group as a place to freely gossip in the form of “prayer requests” unless you have been given permission to share it. It’s easy to gossip about our family, friends, and even our husband.
Don’t gossip about the latest facebook post that rubs you wrong and say, ‘how dare she say that!”. Maybe the person didn’t mean it the way you took it. Gossip can snow ball into scandalous rumors and hurt people deeply.
“A gossip betrays a confidence but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” Proverbs 11:13
I have to watch myself with this. When talking with a girl friend, another friend may come in up in our conversation, and it’s easy to say “did you hear what happened to her?” or “She has been doing ______ a lot.” This is a bunch of useless talk that can start rumors or cause people to think things that are not true about the person you gossip about. Don’t be someone who betrays a confidence. Be trustworthy and keep from starting potential rumors and more gossip. Keep news about people to yourself.
3 ways to stop Gossip:
1.) If someone hurts your feelings, go to them and fix it. Don’t run to a friend or Pastor or prayer group to talk about it.
2.) If you know about something scandalous happening with someone. Don’t ever bring it up to anyone but the people involved. (Unless you have permission)
3.) If you know a secret, keep it to yourself until you have permission to share it.
I want to add something that was on our Facebook page. If you confide in a friend about a struggle you have with someone to get a godly perspective or advice on what to do and do not use names; this I not gossip. No rumors can be started if no names are given. (Unless your malicious about it).
Also when you share marriage struggles you can do it tactful or gossipy. Example: “Jared and I are struggling right know. We Just don’t see eye to eye and I’m Haveing a hard time submitting. Please prayer that God gives me a proper perspective” verses “Jared is being such a fool. He is so immature and I just need prayer ladies because I can’t stand him right now”.
Do you see how both were prayer request but one could make you not like my husband much? One starts rumors and the other doesn’t. We can share things in a way that safeguards people, even If we have a problem with them.
Love you all!